{"id":137114,"date":"2015-07-13T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-07-13T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/danversreads.wordpress.com\/?p=137114"},"modified":"2015-07-13T10:00:00","modified_gmt":"2015-07-13T15:00:00","slug":"staff-review-what-i-was-doing-while-you-were-breeding-kristin-newman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/?p=137114","title":{"rendered":"Staff Review: What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding – Kristin Newman"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"What<\/a>Reviewed by Rachel<\/h3>\n

I find it annoying (and unfortunate) that I had no idea who Kristin Newman was before reading her memoir \u2013 \u2019cause she is one funny broad. What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding<\/em><\/a> is pretty much exactly what you think it is \u2013 a travelogue detailing exactly what (and whom) Newman was doing while all her twenty-something (and then thirty-something) friends and colleagues were settling down and having children. It\u2019s honest and graphic and refreshing and fun \u2013 and I really, really liked it. The set-up is simple: in between the end of one television season and the beginning of another (or during the winter hiatus \u2013 essentially the summer and winter breaks of writers working in Hollywood), Newman embarks on extended vacations around the globe. Her memoir is broken down by trip, with a rotating cast of characters and hilarious recollections of how a single twenty-something parties it up in a foreign country \u201cdoing the thing you\u2019re supposed to do in the place you\u2019re supposed to do it\u201d (which, side note, is a freaking great philosophy to have about life). I think what made me really enjoy this book was that Newman says yes to new experiences. For her, travelling alone to a foreign country is not terrifying but exhilarating: she gets on a plane with barely a sketch of an itinerary and says, \u201cHell yeah let\u2019s do this.\u201d And, in the process, you root for her, cringe with her, and get those warm fuzzies when things go the way you both want them to.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that Newman doesn\u2019t want kids, either; it\u2019s that she doesn\u2019t want them when society says she should want them. And that might seem radical, but to Newman, it\u2019s life. And since I can\u2019t really think of anything more intelligent to say other than, \u201cUGH. JUST GO READ IT ALREADY,\u201d here\u2019s a quote: My friends who met their spouses young have often told me they live vicariously through my adventures. That they sometimes think about the oats they never got a chance to sow. There is a trade-off for both their choice and mine. I used to beat my head over Vito, when he was struggling for years over how he wanted to be with me, but also wanted a life that wasn\u2019t compatible with my life. He couldn\u2019t believe that he couldn\u2019t have everything, and so just wouldn\u2019t choose. And I would tell him, so full of twentysomething wisdom, that life is almost never about choosing between one thing you really want and another thing you don\u2019t want at all. If you\u2019re lucky\u2026 life is an endless series of choosing between two things you want almost equally. And you have to evaluate and determine which awesome thing you want infinitesimally more, and then give up that other awesome thing you want almost exactly as much. You have to trade awesome for awesome.<\/p>\n

Now go be awesome and do the thing you\u2019re supposed to do in the place you\u2019re supposed to do it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Reviewed by Rachel I find it annoying (and unfortunate) that I had no idea who Kristin Newman was before reading her memoir \u2013 \u2019cause she is one funny broad. What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding is pretty much exactly what you think it is \u2013 a travelogue detailing exactly what (and whom) Newman…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":137115,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,57],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-137114","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-memoir","category-staff-review"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6V6sR-zFw","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/137114","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=137114"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/137114\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=137114"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=137114"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.danverslibrary.org\/readthis\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=137114"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}